When it comes to selecting who receives our outpouring of love, the playing field is grossly unequal. For example a man can openly demand that a woman uphold her patriarchal role without anyone within several kilometers batting a lash. Women on the other hand do not experience the same luxuries. A woman cannot openly declare … Continue reading FOR THE LOVE OF MEN
There's a face placed on poverty that forces poor people into performance. Privileged people always want poor people to prove their authenticity by living up to their preconceived notions of poverty. Poor people should be ready to abandon their humanity to appeal to the empathy of those with more. Poor people must be unintelligent and … Continue reading THE WEIGHT OF POVERTY
Marriage is a predefined experience for women. You take his surname, birth children that aren't yours and you labour for him. Your existence is rubbished and you become whatever is necessary to help your husband flourish. Your life is consumed by recipes, unwanted sex and in the presence of relatives pretension becomes an art form. … Continue reading SERIOUSLY THOUGH WHEN WILL YOU GET MARRIED?
The title translates to "hamungaite machongwe maviri mumba" in my language and it is thrown whenever a woman's intelligence peaks through her doek. It is the constant reminder of a woman's supposed inferiority, her inability to lead, to think and make decisions because these are things that are only found in penises and the hollow … Continue reading YOU CANNOT HAVE TWO COCKS IN THE HOUSE.
From the day we leave our mothers breasts we learn that our lives are unimportant, that we are born to serve those who matter. We are nothing more than accessories who cannot think, who must be guarded and chosen. We learn that we are unsafe outside and the dangers in our homes are worn on … Continue reading OUR HOMES ARE BATTLEFIELDS
I couldn't have been that much older when I found out the married women around me were dishonest. It was either this or they were hateful, jealous and desperate to have me fall into their predicament. It didn't make sense that even as terrible as marriage had been to them their reaction to my lack … Continue reading ARE THE MARRIED WOMEN AROUND ME DISHONEST OR HATEFUL?
There are conversations we must not have. Conversations about women and sex. We like to go on pretending women don't like sex, that they are losers when they have sex. The idea that women look for sex from many partners just as men do and that they don't always have sex with men they are … Continue reading THE SEX THAT’S MISSING IN OUR CONVERSATIONS
I had my first dance with the dark when I was around ten, this year I turn twenty. That makes a decade, half my life lived with depression, a taboo in my society, a synonym for laziness. A mythical, white people disease that I would have never known had it not been for the internet … Continue reading WHERE POOR MENTAL HEALTH MEETS POVERTY
I had never been interested in super hero movies or whatever they are called until information on Black Panther dropped. Especially the part about African actors and actresses forming part of the cast not as extras but as the main characters. As if that wasnt enough I found out that Wakanda was based on a … Continue reading BLACK PANTHER, A REVIEW?
Today like most days I feel everything and nothing. My mind is wandering and I've come across so many dusty files that have been lost for a while and when I peruse them I don't feel the same things I did then. I'm slowly adjusting to my oppressed state and everything I have resisted for … Continue reading AT THE CROSSROADS