For many of us, the foundation from which our ideas of sex spring from is a diseased melting pot of toxic misinformation. It's usually through cis-heteronormative lenses that prioritize the release of our male counterparts and social perceptions of morality. When you first learn about sex it's limited to abstinence with the promise of mind … Continue reading SEX AND POWER
As society currently stands, the anomaly is not women existing in constant aggravation and anger. The anomaly is the expectation of calmness and "grace" in the face of constant abuse and theft of autonomy. Which is why it becomes odd when women's anger is discussed as comical and not the direct result of patriarchy's afflictions. … Continue reading WOMEN ARE ALLOWED TO BE ANGRY
Violence against women exists mainly because there's social allowance for it. Narratives have long been formed to present women as irrational beings that trigger violence from their male counterparts and society at large. From physical violence being excused as being a result of serious provocation on a woman's part to sexual violence being pinned on … Continue reading THE SOCIAL ALLOWANCE FOR VIOLENCE AGAINST WOMEN
Modesty is a social construct that serves the narrative that is invested in preserving men's innocence and victim hood. It is a gendered practice that is centered around men's raging libidos and a total disinterest in holding men accountable for how they behave when faced with arousal. Therein lies the problem that is modesty as … Continue reading MODESTY AND RAPE CULTURE
When the bulk of our teaching has been centered on prioritizing men, it’s easier to deny our freedom for the false currency our worth has been based on. It makes sense for women to deny the feminism that has afforded them the shards of humanity they currently experience because men do not like it. For … Continue reading WE ARE NOT FEMINISTS
When it comes to selecting who receives our outpouring of love, the playing field is grossly unequal. For example a man can openly demand that a woman uphold her patriarchal role without anyone within several kilometers batting a lash. Women on the other hand do not experience the same luxuries. A woman cannot openly declare … Continue reading FOR THE LOVE OF MEN
There's a face placed on poverty that forces poor people into performance. Privileged people always want poor people to prove their authenticity by living up to their preconceived notions of poverty. Poor people should be ready to abandon their humanity to appeal to the empathy of those with more. Poor people must be unintelligent and … Continue reading THE WEIGHT OF POVERTY
Marriage is a predefined experience for women. You take his surname, birth children that aren't yours and you labour for him. Your existence is rubbished and you become whatever is necessary to help your husband flourish. Your life is consumed by recipes, unwanted sex and in the presence of relatives pretension becomes an art form. … Continue reading SERIOUSLY THOUGH WHEN WILL YOU GET MARRIED?
The title translates to "hamungaite machongwe maviri mumba" in my language and it is thrown whenever a woman's intelligence peaks through her doek. It is the constant reminder of a woman's supposed inferiority, her inability to lead, to think and make decisions because these are things that are only found in penises and the hollow … Continue reading YOU CANNOT HAVE TWO COCKS IN THE HOUSE.
From the day we leave our mothers breasts we learn that our lives are unimportant, that we are born to serve those who matter. We are nothing more than accessories who cannot think, who must be guarded and chosen. We learn that we are unsafe outside and the dangers in our homes are worn on … Continue reading OUR HOMES ARE BATTLEFIELDS